A Day With The Princess
Spent yesterday at Longwood Gardens in PA with the Princess and the Cherubim. We met two of Ping-Ping's girlfriends from China. One who now lives in Maryland and one who now lives in Alaska, but who was in town visiting her grandmother.
It was so much fun watching these girls chat together. They were all tiny, though one was taller than Ping-Ping. The other two must be several years younger, also, though you couldn't really tell. One of the families also had a four year old Chinese girl, also recently adopted. The other family also had another Chinese girl, though she had been home a few years. All three of our families had three boys before we adopted a girl.
So far, every family I've met through Chinese adoption has been Conservative Christians. I know one lesbian couple through college who have adopted–very caring and intelligent Liberal folks, but other than that…all Conservatives. I wonder why.
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I think it may have something to do with the underlying difference between liberals and conservatives. Liberality is about the freedom--and the fun. Anyone who's seen their friends have children go through the grueling bits may prefer to avoid it altogether. Or at least that's the way it's been for my relatives.
We have the only children on both sides of the family for pretty much those reasons. Oh, they might tack on something about their position is being better for the environment, but when push comes to shove, they don't want to make the hard choices you have to as a parent. To tell someone 'no' and mean it. To give up your time and your personal stuff so that others...who are completely dependent on you...can have something.
My in-laws do not understand why their other sons have no interest in rearing families ... and it's a tough one to explain. Really more a question of why should they want to? Particularly when they see the difficulties we encounter. There's not much in it for them.
Speaking of the Princess, I noted about a week or so ago that John posted some photos of various astronauts that seemed to follow a particular selection bias themselves.
Are you **sure**, Jagi, he's not trying to raise his own Space Princess? :>)
He doesn't, f'rinstance, casually strew NASA or Blue Origin pamphlets around the house or bring flight patches back from Cons, does he?
I did slightly know Cady Coleman in college. She was a couple of years behind me.
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Re: You were in the neighborhood?
I live in Newark, Delaware, about 20 minutes from Longwood Gardens. My cousin Tom and his family reside in Kennett and his eldest daughter Cammy worked at the Dairy Queen on Old Baltimore Pike, just south of the Gardens.
We usually celebrate New Year's Day at breakfast at the Creekside Diner in Kennett, a bit further west on Old Baltimore Pike.
I've been kicking around that area since 1975 when I helped Tom move.