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10:12 am: The Perfect House

It struck me yesterday, as I was rushing around our mess-laden abode: I live in the perfect house.

Now, this may sound strange (especially to those who have actually seen our house. You are probably rubbing your eyes to make sure you read this correctly), our house is a bit small for the six of us, it lacks an office now, and it doesn’t have so many things I dreamed my house would have when I was young. I cannot tell you how much I would like to have a library/office or even a back yard for a dog.

For some time now, I’ve been feeling glum about the fact that I may some day be able to afford the house I want, but I had wanted it to share it with the children. What would be the point of a large house once the children are grown and gone? The thought had been making me quite sad.

But then, yesterday, for the first time, I thought about what this house lacked and asked myself: how many of those things, like a library/office, is for you and John and not for the children?

What would happen if the house was bigger? Would the boys have to share a room? No. Isn’t having to share a room one of the best thing about our house…doesn’t it make it so that they have to interact? Would Ping-Ping ever leave her room if it were larger and had the things in it that she wants there? Isn’t forcing her into the basement with the boys one of the best things about this house…when else would she see and interact with her brothers?

And, so, I realized that maybe we have exactly the house that we need–grass all over the living room floor from the rabbit and all.

Now, I just need to get it straightened up, so that the kids can use it. ;-)

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From:juliet_winters
Date:August 9th, 2011 03:08 pm (UTC)
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I've had similar thoughts. Some are the nature of the house--bedrooms so small you wouldn't want to hole up in there all day.
One television, too. We could easily pick up others for free from friends and family, but one television means the kids must interact and there is a limit on their viewing time and choices.
Same principle about keeping the computers in one room. We may have three of them on the Internet at one time, but there is no privacy... and that is a good thing, I think.
If I could change one thing about my house from a structural standpoint, it would be the kitchen. As you know, we have a shot-gun kitchen. Given my daughter's interest in cooking as a possible career, it would be really nice to have enough room for two people to work comfortably there. Ah, well.
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 9th, 2011 03:11 pm (UTC)
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Would there be some way to renovate it? Or are the walls involve too structural to move (assuming the funds for renevation, of course. ;-( )

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From:juliet_winters
Date:August 9th, 2011 03:15 pm (UTC)
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They are indeed load-bearing walls so that's out. It's okay. If I have to have a big space for a major project, I'm sure that the church wouldn't mind. They've got two ovens, two sinks, etc.

Meantime, the small space requires the young lady to be more independent. I can't hover over her!
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 9th, 2011 03:19 pm (UTC)
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>Meantime, the small space requires the young lady to be more independent. I can't hover over her!

Funny how bugs can turn into features.

Also, as you say with the church kitchens, it is important to appreciate the part of our supply that comes not through the ordinary means. I love that quote from the New Testament about how our abudance will fill your want and your abundance will fill our want. ;-)
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From:juliet_winters
Date:August 9th, 2011 06:50 pm (UTC)
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Another odd thing about that kitchen. It wasn't always the kitchen. As best we can figure it, the original kitchen was in the (shudder) basement. A common practice of the 1890s, apparently.
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 9th, 2011 07:07 pm (UTC)
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It certainly was in mannor houses and other places with servants and slaves. The kitchen was out of the way where no one could see it.

Did they convert a hallway into a kitchen?

From:(Anonymous)
Date:August 9th, 2011 07:54 pm (UTC)
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That, and it's cooler down there.
Yes, it looks like our current was probably a converted hallway. Our house is after the War, so it would have been servants.

We suspicion this because there are the remains of a hearth and perhaps a dumb waiter.
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From:wenchpower
Date:August 9th, 2011 04:03 pm (UTC)
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Thank you for posting this. My husband and I just had our first of what we hope will be many, many kids, and we're looking to move from an apartment to a house. I know we're not going to be able to afford a big one, and this is a nice reminder that a small house isn't a bad thing.
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 9th, 2011 04:31 pm (UTC)
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You are welcome. One of the things that drove it home for me was the horror on the face of my 8 year old when he heard my husband and I discussing how we'd like to have a bigger place. He did not want to move and leave the house he loves. ;-)

Congrats on your new arrival, by the way!

Edited at 2011-08-09 07:07 pm (UTC)
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From:hannahsarah
Date:August 9th, 2011 11:36 pm (UTC)
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"Who is rich? One who is satisfied with what he has."

Pirkei Avos
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 10th, 2011 11:56 am (UTC)
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So true!

I am now fighting off regret...an emotion I seldom have difficulty with...the regret of 'why did I spend soooo much time wanting a different house instead of loving this one." LOL

From:ladyhobbit
Date:August 10th, 2011 01:26 am (UTC)
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We raised four children in a very small house, too! It was our "starter home" that turned into our permanent home. You have it exactly--the children had to share a room (one for the boys, one for the girls), so they had to learn how to get along. Since we have just the one living room (not an additional family room), no one could play video games for 12 hours at a time or watch too much TV. Even the tiny yard was nice when the children were little, because they were safe there. There was just enough room for a swing set and a sandbox. So many things in life that seem like hardships turn out later to have been gifts.

Of course, now we wish we had a bigger dining room because there are now husbands, wives, and grandchildren to think about! But how lucky we are to have that problem!
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 10th, 2011 11:59 am (UTC)
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>But how lucky we are to have that problem!

Ah! What a lovely sentiment!

We theoretically have a small yard, but since we are the end unit of a set of town houses and there is grass all around, with woods behind (parkland around a river) it seems as if we have a very large yard indeed and we only have to care for a small part of it.

In many ways, our house is really wonderful!

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From:juliet_winters
Date:August 10th, 2011 02:57 pm (UTC)
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And you have a pool! And can walk to the grocery store! There is even a small playground for the neighborhood kids. These things we do not have. We do have a river, but it's the drowning kind... .
Stores, yes, but they are boutique in nature. Public library sounds like a good idea, but it's not actually that safe. You are indeed lucky.
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From:arhyalon
Date:August 10th, 2011 03:06 pm (UTC)
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I was thinking today about some of the perks...including having my mom up the street!A lot of them only weigh in, though, against possibly living elsewhere. They don't weigh in against "I wish I could own that big house on the next block" which is in the same neighborhood. ;-)

It really is a nice place, here! I do like your street, too, though. I've always wanted to live near a street like that. LOL

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