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Thanks, All — Success!
A month or so back, I asked for financial help getting the Huffman family to China to adopt their daughter before she turned 14 on September 19th.
The Huffman’s have been to China, picked up their daughter Sophie, and are home! They are so home that their daughter is now on QQ talking to our daughter over headphones and a camera. What is funny about this is that the two girls did not know each other in China. But they met through mutual friends over QQ and are now friends.
If you’d like to see more about the Huffman’s trip to China, their blog is here.
Originally posted to Welcome to Arhyalon
I think it will be a blessing for your family as well. Ping Ping and Sophia really don't have too much in common with the infant adoptees and will be facing the same kinds of challenges. I'm sure it will be a comfort to them. Do they live close by?
Likewise, one of the best things for my daughter has been the Deaf Girls Club. They're off to Graves Mountain for the apple festival next weekend.
Sophia lives in Indianna. Ping-Ping's other friend, Quinn (Bah Yun Xing) lives in California...but at least they can share their experiences. We are talking about trying to do a reunion weekend.
Ping-Ping was sad that Quinn got to go to Chinese school, while she had to go to regular school, but I think I got across that Quinn was going to TWO schools, regular and taking classes at a Chinese school.
If Ping-Ping had been younger, there might have been a Mandarin program availabl, but here they only do that for elementary school.
Is that something Juss might be interested in taking?
If Juss could overcome his other struggles there are a number of things he could benefit from.
Wonderful news! I want to rejoice for the Huffmans, and for you as well. Alas, I can’t quite manage it because of my own envy. I shall never have children myself, adoptive or any other kind, and it hurts terribly to be reminded of it. Instead I’ll try to pray for the well-being and happiness of both families, and hope that makes up for my pettiness of spirit.
Prayer is very welcomed!
I've read a number of testimonies from members of my church who could not have children where they came, through prayer, to realize that not having children could not restrict them from reflecting the parenting qualities of their Eternal Father. They found that when they looked for it, there were opportunities to express mothering or fathering (depending on who was writing the article) in their life.
So even if the joy of children is beyond your grasp, that does't mean that you cannot have a wonderful influence on the lives of those around you in a similar way to a parent.
I guess the secret is to pray, keep your heart open, and look for the possibilities.
Those are good thoughts, but not, I fear, comforting ones; I could say they are not ‘addressed to my condition’. I really don’t see any way that I can have a good or helpful, let alone wonderful, influence on anyone. In fact, I may be the most perfectly useless person I have ever known or heard of.
Thanks for your kind thoughts all the same.
Ah ha! But you are wrong. I saw someone compliment you just today on your blog. Perhaps your oportunities to father are electronic. ;-)
Perhaps. On the other hand, I spend a lot of my time online being called fifty-three different kinds of fathead. And last night I’m afraid I lost my temper because of Important People in the news openly describing people like me as lebensunwertes Leben — though they didn’t say it in German, and therefore didn’t realize they were aping Hitler. They thought they were good little humanitarian progressives, so they did.
It seems that I cannot accomplish anything without help that I do not deserve and cannot get. But never mind my whingeing. I am ill and discouraged and short of sleep, and I’m afraid I’m coming a bit unstuck. This should be about your joyous occasion, and I do honestly wish I were in a frame of mind to appreciate the joy.
Both of my children fall into that category. They are profoundly, genetically deaf. It was really enlightening to visit the Holocaust Museum in DC and learn what happened to deaf people--and why there are now so few deaf in Germany.
If they were German-born, they were "merely" sterilized. If they were in a rebellious country, such as Czechoslovakia (my mother-in-law's home) they were sent to special boarding schools where they all mysteriously died of vague illnesses. The parents would be sent a comforting letters but never bodies.
Because disabled children take more limited resources both in healthcare and often in education, a pure utilitarian should see no problem with stopping their lives. There is no room with them for compassion or hope.
I am sorry you are feeling unwell. But it's not you who are misguided. We (parents of special needs children look to argumentative people like you to hold the gate against the enemy.
I wonder if you know my mom? Her name is Carolyn Crowley. She used to live in Grants Pass, and when she was more healthy she worked as a sign language interpreter and teacher. For the longest time she was the top rated interpreter on the west coast, right up there with Jodi Dutcher. My dad is a lifelong member of the Lion's Club, and I grew up with Deaf culture.
I'm extremely hard of hearing and I lip read mostly. Hearing aids don't work for the type of nerve damage I have. I had an extremely high fever when I was 3, and lost a huge chunk of midrange hearing. I can hear a clock ticking in the next room, but I often can't hear a man's voice even if he's standing right next to me.
Unfortunately Grant did not pass by our town. In fact he set up his HQ near here several times. We're on the East Coast, Virginia to be exact, and about an hour and a half drive from the Wrights. Sorry, I don't know your mother personally, but anyone who devotes a significant period of her life to helping handicapped kids is aces in my book.
The Lions in Fairfax County have helped a lot with our Cued Speech Camp. Don't know if that system would interest you. It is word-for-word rather than a different sort of translation. Doesn't take a long time to learn. Has been adapted to numerous languages, including modern Hebrew.
Correction. It is phoneme-for-phoneme rather than word for word. Sorry.
Sorry I did not answer sooner, I was out of town (in New York City.)
I am saddened to hear that you are feeling so poorly. I know when I feel poorly, my thoughts, too, are often quite dark and self-depricating. Worse, when I am ill, I cannot imagine that things could ever be otherwise. I don't know if you find that, too.
If you are feeling really bad, you might try reading this. People get healed reading this all the time. I was just talking with someone yesterday who told me that she was quite ill when she started reading. She didn't understand any of it at first, but to her amazement, she realized she was feeling better:http://www.spirituality.com/dt/book_lookup.jhtml?reference=SH%2Bvii&marks=false&baseURL=book_lookup.jhtml
That is so incredibly awesome! What great news to wake up to. :-D
I'm so happy for the girl and her adopted family. And for Ping-Ping.
Thank you for sharing this news.