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08:30 am: Chatting on Sunday

I had a chat with my daughter yesterday. In many ways, our first coversation. She came in where I was supposedly taking a rest and started chatting about her friends in China -- her "little sister" is very sad because she had two close friends, Ping-Ping and another, and now both will be in America. -- rabbits, and other issues of interest to her for about half an hour.

I have seen her chat away in Chinese quite a few times, but this was the first time she chatted with me. ;-)


PS. Her Little Sister (her friend of many many year) is now 14 and too old to be adopted. Please pray for her. God must have some plan for this lovely child.




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From:juliet_winters
Date:June 7th, 2010 01:38 pm (UTC)
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Congratulations on making progress with communication...and she's acting like any teenage daughter, interrupting your quiet/rest time to discuss things important to her.
"Mom, can we talk?" is a pretty steady query around here, and I'm glad of it.
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From:arhyalon
Date:June 7th, 2010 01:45 pm (UTC)
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Exactly.

It's amazing how many concepts can be expressed with the words "this one".
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From:bojojoti
Date:June 7th, 2010 08:07 pm (UTC)
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My teenage son always seemed to want to talk after everyone else was in bed. Our best talks were after midnight.

I feel so sorry for Little Sister.
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From:starshipcat
Date:June 8th, 2010 01:54 pm (UTC)
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It is a sad situation. I just wish there were some way to help make sure that she can get the full range of educational opportunities and doesn't have ceilings arbitrarily placed on her aspirations simply because she's an orphan and therefore somehow "unworthy" of higher education or a nice job. But it would have to be done with extreme care, not just to make sure everything was above-board, but to avoid pushing in ways that might make some official feel face-threatened and take it out on her.

Now there are some people who are truly happy in manual labor -- the guy who used to live next to us was happiest when he had his hands all greasy fixing a car, and would have been quite unhappy if someone were to pressure him into going into auto-shop management. But there are also people who would be desperately unhappy to be forced into manual labor as a default option, and for whom it would be an act of crushing despair to be told "college is not for the likes of you."
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From:arhyalon
Date:June 8th, 2010 01:59 pm (UTC)
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In China, only 41/2 % of their almost 2 billion population can go to college.

I have been praying to see if any ideas come. Maybe there is an exchane program she could participate in, or an American charity or company that could help. Nothing has come to me yet, but we don't have to give up.
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From:starshipcat
Date:June 8th, 2010 02:18 pm (UTC)
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An exchange program is something I'd been thinking about too. Maybe it's too late for her to be adopted, but if she can maintain her ties with her two friends who were, maybe the connection would open doors for her to come over here once she reaches her majority, and then be able to have a full range of open doors instead of arbitrary barriers that are based on status rather than her personal abilities.

But it'd have to be done carefully to make clear it's 100% above-board, and not sympathetic people trying to bypass the rules just because we feel she got a raw deal.
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From:arhyalon
Date:June 8th, 2010 02:25 pm (UTC)
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There are exchange programs that bring Chinese children over here. I've found out that much. What I don't know yet is how one joins the program in China.
From:(Anonymous)
Date:June 10th, 2010 09:05 pm (UTC)
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In the USA, less than a quarter of the population bother to go through college. There are many, many people in the USA in need of some cultural awareness, education, all sorts of things.

It's not just China and the USA; the whole world needs help.
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From:arhyalon
Date:June 11th, 2010 11:52 am (UTC)
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Sorry...I did not make that clear. Only four and a half percent ARE ALLOWED to go to colleg in China.

The government decides who can go. Does not matter how much you want to go. If you are not in that top 4.5% you cannot go.

Also, once you get there, the government picks your major.

In America about 15% get college degrees, but nearlyk 80% of high school students go on to college at some point in their life. They just don't finish because either they don't want to or they don't need to. There are many carreers you can choose where you need some training but you don't necessarily need a BA or a BS.

There is no relationship between deciding not to go to/finish college and not being allowed to go.
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